Being single isnt easy!

I don’t care what I or other people say! Being single is not that easy. Sure the grass seems greener on the other side but its a very hard lawn to maintain all by yourself.

Sure its great to not have to answer to someone, come as go as you please and save a bundle on Christmas, Birthday, and Valentine gifts but there are those times that I find myself watching a chick flick and wanting to cuddle up with someone in bed while i scratch his back (sigh). As tough as I want to portray myself, truth is, I am a woman! I feel lonely , sad and in need of companionship. Maybe I have not found my Soul mate and I need to continue dating until I find him. Or maybe his navigation system broke down and he is out there climbing every mountain, river, and castle to find me and swoop me off my feet!

So yes the grass is not always greener on the other side. Maybe I should follow my friends advice of going on 365 random dates for a full year and see where that takes me.

Astrological Sex?

I was instant messaging a friend Friday night we came across the topic of Astrology and how eery it is that most of us posses some characteristics of certain signs.I consider myself to be a true Leo, a Fixed Fire Sign, that is creative, faithful, loving yet pompous bossy dogmatic and intolerant. What a resume huh?

As the conversation progressed we both began going down the route of “text sex” he made a point that because we were both Leos the sex would be incredible between us? Hmmm, I thought, that’s a new pick-up line. Astrological Sex? I began to wonder ,is sex better between two similar astrological signs or opposing ones? As I researched this topic a little further I found that.

Leo’s have a strong sex drive and are so attracted to the opposite sex that they find it hard to be constant; they can be so intensely sexual as to become dissolute. They may have numerous love affairs for their love of pleasure and beauty is liable to drive them from one attractive partner to another. They are very much inclined to deceive.

I don’t know what you think but that looks like a recipe for disaster, but then again if both Leo’s are on the same page and they are intensely sexual wouldn’t that make a recipe for great sex.

LEO – ARIES : This is a good match, because both are much concerned about sex.

LEO – TAURUS : A romantic beginning may turn into a war.

LEO – GEMINI : Gemini will be clever enough to appear charming to Leo all the time.

LEO – CANCER : Leo is in a mood for accidental romance, while Cancer prefers serious relationship

LEO – LEO : In bed, as everywhere, Leo thinks only of himself. The question is the following: will the two “I” succeed in becoming the one “we”?

LEO – VIRGO : Leo possesses higher sexuality than Virgo, and that may cause problems in the bedroom

LEO – LIBRA : Leo’s sex approach is more physical and spontaneous by character than that of Libra. However, they can a have good time together,

LEO – SCORPIO : Candles, luxury, sparkling wine in the bedroom. This may smooth over the existing problems. Jealousy of Scorpio offends Leo.

LEO – SAGITTARIUS : Both like adventures and consider love as one of them.

LEO – CAPRICORN : Practical Capricorn will hold in check expansive and optimistic nature of Leo. They are too different.

LEO – AQUARIUS : Aquarius brings more color to sexual individuality of Leo and making love becomes more exiting.

LEO – PISCES : Active expansive Leo won’t get along with timid introvert Pisces.

So maybe one of the questions on a date should be what is your sign, and if we if we are not compatible then Ill just end the date right there? I know for many people, they don’t believe in this whole cosmic mumbo jumbo but as I look at the info posted above I realized that many of those statements were true of my past relationships.

I guess I will just have to research this topic a little more!

Sex impares judgement?

As my cousins and I sat at the Cubby Bear ,dining on wings and beer we sat there talking, venting, and discussing our past, current, and future relationships or lack thereof. What started out as an innocent conversation ended up in a therapeutic discussion involving sex, self-discovery, and a dose of common sense. We could not help but realize that as 20-something intelligent, educated ,beautiful women we all had the same thing in common! We enjoy being single! As we compared our non- boyfriend boyfriends and boyfriends we came to realize that relationships suck!

I mean as individuals we are strong, independent and educated women but when we find ourselves in relationships we get involved in the thought of him we get “stuck on stupid.” We begin to do things we don’t normally do such as lend “him” money (which he will never repay), lavish him with gifts of all kinds, cook him dinner while we starve, alter our schedules, pamper him in every which way and we forget about us! Why is it that we as women go GAGA over the male species, and it gets worse once intimacy is involved! My cousin commented that in the book The female brain by Louann Brizendine, that after sex, chemicals are released in our brain that impairs our judgement and makes us do things we would not normally do!

So as we sat there comparing Mr wonderful, we all came to the consensus that it is so much easier to be single! Why sit there and allow ourselves to be involved in the wanting to be loved and in love when “man” only sees this as an opportunity to take advantage of our generosity. We don’t need to take that!

Do you guys do this on purpose? and women, does sex impair our judgment and we find ourselves getting “stuck on stupid”? I mean yes there is such thing as a good guy and if he is out there please send him my way.

But he surely not any time soon! I so have to read the female brain!

Never doubt your inner voice!

So I  dated this new person lets call him, “jealous man”. He was nice and sweet and kind and intelligent but as I got to know him I realized he was jealous! I doubted my inner voice and tried to look past this and pull out the positive things that he had to offer IE a stable job, a good head on his shoulders, goals, ambitions, awesome personality but I just could not get over the fact that he was jealous!

I  found him leaning over my phone while I was texting, or making comments such as “oh who are you talking to, another man, or did you sleep with him?  The more he did it, the  more it annoyed the bleep out of me and pushed me away! I kept thinking to myself, am I being to picky? I mean we all have a little jealous bone in our bodies but don’t we all need a little space and freedom ? I have known men, to not really ask or care if I get calls at three in the morning while I am at their house, or that my phone is blowing up with texts or emails. A relationship is about trust! My job and career goals entail a lot of networking, whether it be musicians, night club owners, etc and the majority of people I do end up speaking with for potential businesses or stories are men! I am a busy woman and I let this be known from day one!

Is  three months  too soon in a non-relationship relationship for someone to be jealous? I mean its only been three months. As I got to know him a little more, I found out that he had plans to move me out of the country, have a baby girl with me and marry me! WHOA can you say nuts?!

Although it is nice to know that someone cares for you and if you are talking to someone else I don’t have time for these petty emotions or feelings and need someone to be secure in themselves and not bring any of this to me!

Is jealousy an endearing gesture or is it plain out annoying! But then again could I just be stuck on stupid?

I knew what I need to do! Its was  just a matter of doing it. How do I get myself in these predicaments?!  After I broke it off, dude called me 20-30xs a day for the the duration of the week and just as I was about to call the cops! It stopped.

So the moral of the story is never doubt your inner voice if it does not feel or look right, chances are it isn’t!