LOVE OR LUST
After having a discussion with Prince Todd the other day, we came across the topic of love and lust. Is there a difference between the two, does on supersede the other, and can the two be combined ? When does the logical overcome the emotional or vice versa?
I simply was commenting to him that I miss those moments when I look into a mans eyes into his soul and reach into his heart. I miss being in love. He then proposed the question were you in love? Huh? Well I thought I was until you asked me if I was .As the conversation progressed and he pointed out a few things about the male species, I began to doubt my feelings and wondered if I was in love or lust.
Lets look at the definition of each
Being in love is defined as:
sexual passion or desire
Lust
To have intense sexual desire.
Ok that does not really help!
His argument was humans have an innate animalistic characteristic’s, that we can not control and love unfortunately is not in them. Like a predator in the jungle we seek out our prey, chase it around for miles on end and once we have caught it, we either dispose of it or devour it until the next time we are hungry.
He continued to state that men and women are the same, we are attracted to our mate, are intreagued by the chase, the mystery ,the uncertainty but once we catch them does the interest die down? Thats where the whole was it love or lust comes in to play. Will you “love” him once the chase is over and you know you have captured them. When you know what they are truly about, will you still lust for them or move on to the next prey .. Hmm wow I never thought of it that way. Are humans made to fall in love or just to fall in lust?
I guess I would have to disagree with him, I believe that true love does exist . Love to me it was not being able to get him out of my mind even when he is gone, thinking of him day and night, smiling upon the very thought of him, and never getting tired of his kisses, words and touches. Lust is feeling your heart jump out of your body upon his touch, just getting exited at the very thought of him, smiling after having hot passionate sex . Are they really two separate emotions, or are they the same? Can you love someone you do not lust for or lust for someone you are not in love with?
When those hot passionate sex sessions turn into more than just the physical emotions and the words of F(k) me turn into words of make love to me. When both love and lust meet , and the chemistry between you explodes into an array of emotions, thoughts and desires that the mind can not comprehend , what do you call that?
So was I in love, or was I in love with the idea of him. I really don’t know!
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I am afraid I must agree with Prince Todd, Colomitaliana.
Cool Blog
Why not true love and true lust, but not in that order…..
Ciao
Thanks! I love hearing things from a mans POV I will keep blogging keep the ideas coming! Thanks for siding with Prince Todd. But I will stick with my fairytale for a moment.
Ciao carina……………donde esta`?
Ciao..estoy aqui ~ y usted? I think I agree with Prince Todd as well, but sometimes just sometimes true love exists
This entry is amazing. I have been looking for some new material to read and I am so glad I came across this site. In any event, there are a couple of notes I wanted to make:
1. It’s interesting to me that it is the second definition found under love that mentions anything about sexual interest, not the first definition. I personally think the first defintion would have been enough for love and the second would cater more to lust.
2. And as unfortunate as it is, what Todd says is true. I watch animal planet and see the lengths these animals go to just to have sex– puffing up beautiful feathers and even risking thier lives. It’s sad to say that what we have made of love is nothing more than a mating game.
And while I’d love to believe that love and lust are two separate entities and that real true love apart from lust can exsist, I am beginning to regretfully think that all that we do is for nothing more than sex.
I know it was one of those moments where you had to be there. This mans mind was full of knowledge! I had to blog it asap!
Yes I can see both sides to it. I can see myself being that lioness who struts her stuff or that praying mantids that consumes their male mates in the time leading up to or briefly following sex.
But I also like to believe in true love and happy endings. But my question and possible blog is, when do you stop..When does the whole mating cycle get played out.
Hi Natalia,
I enjoy reading your blog. I just set up mine today at WordPress, and I find that many things that I want to write about, well, have been explored by you. And I think you put it better than me. Keep it up!
I think we are just like the animals. Doing everything we could to get the attention we crave for, and of course the intimate session that follows. But being human, there is a difference. We should not stop once the chase is over, once the mating game is over, once we got what we want from that other person. The chase, the mating should be the start and part of the journey in exploring each other together.
Just like what niecey24 said, the 2nd definition is the one that describe about the sexual interest. I think both definition must go along together. But just as the order of the entry, affection (feeling) must be taken as more important than the sexual interest. They can’t go on their own way. It’s hard to love someone deeply without any sexual desire involved. When that happen, it is not love but the mere idea of being in love with the feeling of love. Of course it is clear that when you are sexually attracted to someone you don’t have emotional closeness with, that’s pure lust, not love.
True love is when you are fully aware and fully committed to put affection above sexual interest. In my opinion, you can’t say you have found your true love until that love has been put through the test of time. Hence, there is no such thing as true love when you only been with that person for few months.
My friend told me some time ago that true love is when you are faced with temptations around you, yet you happily stay with your partner. Temptations are surrounding us all the time. It is up to us to surrender to them or not. It is our self, not the devil (temptation), who needs to be blamed for our own choice.
Now if only more guys would agree with me that love is not a game that needs to be finished within a time line.