Comments on: Sealed with a kiss! http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/2008/09/25/rules-to-dating/ Chicago, Dating, Relationships, Men, Women, Bad Dates, Attacting the Wrong men Fri, 18 Dec 2009 01:32:23 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Will O'Neill http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/2008/09/25/rules-to-dating/#comment-92 Will O'Neill Sat, 24 Jan 2009 16:21:55 +0000 http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/?p=181#comment-92 Hmm. Yeah, that's pretty gross, I must admit. I'm not sure that in this particular case, though, that the guy was actually unaware that you didn't want to kiss him - it seems almost like he was thinking "She might not want this first kiss, but because I am so sexy and good at kissing if I just keep kissing her she will eventually be overcome with insane seduction, and then she will sleep with me in the middle of this platonic conversation." I don't know if there's much you can do with someone who would think such a bizarre and arrogant thing - you might just be best to move along, major story notwithstanding. But most men are not like this, I don't think. Hmm. Yeah, that’s pretty gross, I must admit. I’m not sure that in this particular case, though, that the guy was actually unaware that you didn’t want to kiss him – it seems almost like he was thinking “She might not want this first kiss, but because I am so sexy and good at kissing if I just keep kissing her she will eventually be overcome with insane seduction, and then she will sleep with me in the middle of this platonic conversation.”

I don’t know if there’s much you can do with someone who would think such a bizarre and arrogant thing – you might just be best to move along, major story notwithstanding.

But most men are not like this, I don’t think.

]]> By: colomitalia http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/2008/09/25/rules-to-dating/#comment-91 colomitalia Sat, 24 Jan 2009 15:22:00 +0000 http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/?p=181#comment-91 Will, I agree with you but just because you were given the license does not mean that you are allowed to do what ever you want. There are some rules you must follow, such as STOP, YIELD,& ONEWAY.. Let me explain these signs of when to kiss or not to kiss.How about when you are having a platonic conversation with a friend. Out of the blue he leans in and plants one right on you~ You are left with a choice, slap him, or slap him . I was soo upset! Not once did I flirt or give him any signs that I was into him! The complete opposite! Because he is a friend and potential connection for a major story. I let it slide, However, given my body language and facial expression you can tell I was not happy. As I made my way out..and into the car.. I said goodbye and smooch he tried again. OK Now you have invaded my privacy and respect. OK what give him the right to try to kiss me again! without asking. Did he not read my face the first time around. My point of this whole blog is; men! Open your eyes and pick up on the signs. A woman will let you know if she wants to be kissed or kiss you! It's not rocket science! Don't ever try to surprise kiss anyone! If you got away with it the first time consider yourself lucky that you are still alive. And if she did initially intend on kissing you but is not kissing you again. Its time to MOVE ON! Will, I agree with you but just because you were given the license does not mean that you are allowed to do what ever you want. There are some rules you must follow, such as STOP, YIELD,& ONEWAY..

Let me explain these signs of when to kiss or not to kiss.How about when you are having a platonic conversation with a friend. Out of the blue he leans in and plants one right on you~ You are left with a choice, slap him, or slap him . I was soo upset! Not once did I flirt or give him any signs that I was into him! The complete opposite! Because he is a friend and potential connection for a major story. I let it slide, However, given my body language and facial expression you can tell I was not happy.

As I made my way out..and into the car.. I said goodbye and smooch he tried again. OK Now you have invaded my privacy and respect.

OK what give him the right to try to kiss me again! without asking. Did he not read my face the first time around. My point of this whole blog is; men! Open your eyes and pick up on the signs. A woman will let you know if she wants to be kissed or kiss you! It’s not rocket science! Don’t ever try to surprise kiss anyone! If you got away with it the first time consider yourself lucky that you are still alive. And if she did initially intend on kissing you but is not kissing you again. Its time to MOVE ON!

]]> By: Will O'Neill http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/2008/09/25/rules-to-dating/#comment-90 Will O'Neill Sat, 24 Jan 2009 14:19:37 +0000 http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/?p=181#comment-90 My recent post about kissing llamas was linked to this one by wordpress.com, so I thought I'd come over and say hello! You can check it out at: http://animalsneedkisses.wordpress.com/2009/01/24/llamas/ I think once you kiss somebody one time, it is very hard to revoke that license, but in the case of somebody who you've found you don't have chemistry with, your real issue is not the kissing: Your issue is with how to tell that person that the relationship they thought they were going to have with you is not going to happen. Rather than make that point an insult to an injury by having that conversation immediately after rejecting them for a kiss, you should probably bring it up to them at some place or time where kissing isn't really going to happen, like at church, or on the telephone. My recent post about kissing llamas was linked to this one by wordpress.com, so I thought I’d come over and say hello! You can check it out at:

http://animalsneedkisses.wordpress.com/2009/01/24/llamas/

I think once you kiss somebody one time, it is very hard to revoke that license, but in the case of somebody who you’ve found you don’t have chemistry with, your real issue is not the kissing: Your issue is with how to tell that person that the relationship they thought they were going to have with you is not going to happen.

Rather than make that point an insult to an injury by having that conversation immediately after rejecting them for a kiss, you should probably bring it up to them at some place or time where kissing isn’t really going to happen, like at church, or on the telephone.

]]> By: colomitalia http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/2008/09/25/rules-to-dating/#comment-69 colomitalia Mon, 29 Sep 2008 17:17:48 +0000 http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/?p=181#comment-69 I had to end the friendship with this person which sucks! But it just upset me and made me wonder why men do that shit! Why cant you just take it for what it is! I am and was up front and honest but it just urks me that men expect something out of you the second time around. I had to end the friendship with this person which sucks! But it just upset me and made me wonder why men do that shit! Why cant you just take it for what it is!

I am and was up front and honest but it just urks me that men expect something out of you the second time around.

]]> By: niecey24 http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/2008/09/25/rules-to-dating/#comment-68 niecey24 Mon, 29 Sep 2008 16:01:12 +0000 http://colomitalia.wordpress.com/?p=181#comment-68 See, this is exactly why I love your material. Real, honest, tranparent and exactly what others think in the quiet of their minds but don't have the courage to say out loud. Awesome. Yes, but I know several women who have kissed guys and didn't feel anything and contiuned to befriend the person as if the kiss never happened. Don't ask me how they do it, personally I'd be extremely uncomfortable, but they do it. Either by outrightly ignoring that the kiss ever happened or being frank with how you felt about it, two routes that I know people have taken. As far as your question is concerned, I mean it's hard to interact with someone in a particular way [kissing them]and then go switching it up on folks without notice. Men usually expect progression--hoping kissing will escalate, not back pedal them to no hope of getting closer to "scoring". LOL. See, this is exactly why I love your material. Real, honest, tranparent and exactly what others think in the quiet of their minds but don’t have the courage to say out loud. Awesome. Yes, but I know several women who have kissed guys and didn’t feel anything and contiuned to befriend the person as if the kiss never happened. Don’t ask me how they do it, personally I’d be extremely uncomfortable, but they do it. Either by outrightly ignoring that the kiss ever happened or being frank with how you felt about it, two routes that I know people have taken. As far as your question is concerned, I mean it’s hard to interact with someone in a particular way [kissing them]and then go switching it up on folks without notice. Men usually expect progression–hoping kissing will escalate, not back pedal them to no hope of getting closer to “scoring”. LOL.

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