Comments on: The right one???

By: colomitalia

colomitalia — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 14:01:24 +0000

With each relationship I learn a new thing about men, dating, and even myself. But I think that is what is meant to happen.

Why did I have to fall so hard for him_sigh, I can relate Mikaela. I rarely fall for men, but there was and is that one man that I could never have. The infallible man, that we put up on a pedestal and worshiped the ground he walked on. The one man who we thought would be our forever and turned out to be a lesson learned. The one that provoked us to act out of character and made us do stupid things .

I understand your pain, and it sucks when you give a person your heart and they do what they please with it. I think the cracks are there to remind us never to do the same mistakes again. I have to listen to that song.
But you should forgive yourself, not the other person. For what ever reason you are seeking forgiveness we should remind ourselves that we are only human.

By: Mikaela

Mikaela — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 11:17:19 +0000

Totally agree with you. I learned a thing or two from every relationship I had. Though it doesn’t guarantee me from not making the same mistakes again and again.

Just that sometimes I think to myself… if that person supposed to be in my life just to teach me something, and not meant for me… why did I have to fall so hard for him? Yes, there were some whom I can easily say goodbye to.But there were also those few very special people whom the very thought of them still make my heart feels so heavy. I am so tired of picking up the million pieces of my heart and bandage them back. Even when I managed to over time, the cracks are still there. sigh.

I’ve been listening to India Arie’s song “The Heart of the matter” lately. I know she is right… it’s all about forgiveness. But when you have forgiven that person yet still find yourself wanting him, what must you do then?

By: colomitalia

colomitalia — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 16:24:44 +0000

I think I am starting to believe the same thing, the more I get out there i am realizing a specific person is thrown into your life for a reason, to either enlighten u, make you happy short or long term.
But maybe it is timing, location, and place, maybe the one person who is not for you now may just be later on in life. Only time and experience and life can determine that

By: satirized

satirized — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 13:20:38 +0000

Personally, I don’t believe in fate and soulmates. I used to but only for awhile. I agree with the fact that you would just know, it’ll just feel right. But I don’t believe in the one, I do however believe in the right one. The right one can be anyone and with time, location or whatever happening that occurs you might suddenly find yourself holding the right person in your arms even though you felt that they were wrong ages ago.
P.S. I like your blog, it’s entertaining and full of personality.

By: Single Girl

Single Girl — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 05:00:23 +0000

I choose to believe that there is more than ‘one’ – but only one at any given time. Timing is everything, but it seems impossible that in this huge world, full of people, there could be only ONE person meant for us. If that was the case, I’m not sure anyone would ever find him or her….