Dontdatehimgirl.com

In honor of the flick he is just not that into you and Valentines Day I wanted to share a website that I came across last year and visit quite often,Dontdatehimgirl.com. I know what many women may be thinking, a website that tells you not to date a man? Please, Let me make that decision on my own !

Allow me to explain myself, when my friend first told me of that website, I looked it, read a couple of posts on some men that I dated, dismissed what it said and walked right into a burning room. (and then I wonder why I get hurt?)   So  here I am a year later, going through the same shit kicking myself in the ass for not listening to another woman’s advice including my own about a guy that I was seeing off and on for the past year .(The guy who inspired this post, stuck on stupid) I know that now all men are the same, and not all men are douche bags but there are those few that ruin it for the good guys and continue to do so as long as they are allowed to.

As soon as I finished updating a post on dontdatehimgirl.com, about a friend/lover who I recently found out (by  unconventional means) that he has three other friends/lovers at the same time,  who obviously do not know about each other, I thought that I should warn other women about this serial player.  Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with a man who has an active lifestyle, but what bothers me is  the fact that he lies about it, and makes these women believe they are the only one.  THAT I HAVE AN ISSUE WITH . As you can tell I am a little upset, especially since I was honest with this “friend” with benefits. Despite our numerous talks about not being able to be in a relationship  there was always a connection between us, a connection that is hard to explain.  Although we dubbed it  a friendship ,we enjoyed each others company both in and out of the bedroom,had deep conversations about the past , present, and future . I can’t explain what it was that we had, but in my eyes it was more than that , his actions were different from the words that came out of his mouth. Does a friend call you pet names like baby? Does a friend make love to you andd? Does a friend cuddle after sex? Does a friend sometimes slip and mention the possibility of a future together?

I cant explain the connection that we had, but for some reason we were drawn to each other time after time. We knew that we sucked at the whole relationship thing , but we both knew that we liked having each other in our lives. Despite my strong feelings for him, I would tell him if I was dating others, etc. It was hard but  I was honest.  I mean who wants to tell the man that you thought you  were in love with that you were dating other men, and the only reason that you are doing this is because he wont commit to you.

I guess that’s what separates the men from the boys, a man is someone who is able to tell the truth and let a woman know where she stands from day one instead of sugar coating shit. I wish I could let  all the other women with broken hearts out there know that unity in numbers is key!!!  Lets promote this site to warn at least one woman who encounters this douche bag to move onward and forward.  Like the saying goes, not all that glitters is gold,

So getting back to my unconventional way of finding out about these women, what should I do with this information that I have in my hands? Should I warn at least one of these women about her Prince Charming? Or let it go?

I know that all men are not the same, and I wish many more women knew about this site because unfortunately there are a lot of douche bags out there.

I have figured out the hard way that you cant trust every one , second chances are not always a good idea, and some people will never change. What you see is not necessarily what you get. If I could warn at least one woman about one of  the losers that is out there than I have at least done my job.