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Men being abused??!!?!

0211_rhianna_bruised-copyWhile I was doing my crunches at the gym today, I happened to glimpse at the the TV and the topic on some morning talk show was Men Being abused.  I jumped off my bouncy ball and my ears and eyes perked up with interest.Anyone who knows me knows why this is a sensitive subject and exactly why I am blogging about this.

Domestic Violence ; that elephant in the room that exists yet everyone is ashamed and  afraid to talk about it. NOT until now that is! Not until a celebrity hits another celebrity is when people actually start taking interest in the subject! Now its news worthy..So back to that show, some idiot scholar on the show with his magical research went on to discuss his messed up hypothesis that women are the culprits behind most of the violence. If I am not mistaken, his exact words were that 70 percent of women provoke these DV occurrences. Wow he has numbers to prove it. Then he went on to state that men  are also being abused in relationships yet they are too ashamed to admit it. O OK Ill give him that im sure a woman hitting a man desmasculates him, but i mean come on Women provoking a DV occurrence..That’s a crock of SHIT. If we believe his hypothesis then we would be admitting that men are heathens that are not capable of controlling themselves and lack the brain power to take control of their emotions. Just because a person upsets you, does deem you to be GOD, and allow you to punish a person!  Shit if that true in my life, do you know how many people I would love to beat down?! I work in customer service I deal with idiots that provoke me everyday! DO  you see me on the news pulling out a can of whup ass!

As the show continued this man continued to put his foot in his mouth and  and  following his 70 percent of women statement, these words came out of his mouth. “Don’t get me wrong, no one deserves to get abused but the reality is that many men are being provoked into hitting a woman! WOW! I had to take a minute and remind myself that we are in 2009 and the the fucking 1890’s!

They might as well have titled the segment Women who speak up, deserve an ass  whupping!

I’m sure there are some crazy women out there that do hit their men, but I am going to have to disagree with this idiot. Women are biologically made smaller than men, we do not have testosterone and muscles even if I was Little miss Bad ass and wanted to beat my man, chances are, he would have me on the ground in 0.0 seconds. I am not saying women are better than men, I am just disagreeing with the statement that women provoke men. GOD or whomever gave us brains lets use them!!!

I’m sure that this topic is being explored because of  “alleged” Chris Brown and Rhianna incident making headlines but I  mean come on Men being abused? I’m sorry I don’t buy it! First off, it is sad to say that the only reason that this is making the news is because a celebrity battered another celebrity big F’n deal! There are thousands if not millions of women being battered and killed everyday and do you hear about these  women? Don’t get me wrong, my heart goes out to Rhianna and I DO KNOW how she feels but what urks me is how the media is using this topic as material for their talk shows!   COME ON PEOPLE!

ok off to work im sure i will edit this soon!

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February 19, 2009 - Posted by colomitalia | Chicago, Men, dating | , , , , , | 4 Comments

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  1. Let me first start out by saying that i agree with the majority of your statement, and yes the media is just using this as material and couldnt give two sh1ts about the subject. But ive noticed that more and more men are being abused now-a-days because alot of us were trained from an early age not to hit women and if you do you are a punk!! so we keep that in the back of our heads, but lets be honest…from my personal experience there is i fine line between abuse and defending yourself, yes men are bigger and stronger, but after a few beatings and after you try to avoid an argument and leave one room after another and she constantly follows you and yells and then hits you and wont stop and slaps you in your right ear and pops your ear drum there is only so much you can take, you cant be mohammad ali and do the “rope-a-dope” forever thats when some men hold their women down or push them up against a wall holding her hands untill she calms down. but that is still considered “abuse” by the man. NOW domestic violence is a sick thing and no woman or man should be subjected to that, its wrong no matter who does the hitting, it is after all a 2way street not a 1way. take care :)

    Comment by anonymous | February 22, 2009 | Reply

  2. Hi anonymous!

    Yes there is a fine line, and it is a two way street. JUst like the cliche goes, there is an exception to every rule and there are some women that do need to take their crazy pills. I am referring to the men that take advantage of their manliness.. I guess you would have to sit there and define defending yourself, what are you exactly defending yourself from. ie Her mouth ? Her weak punches? In my eyes abuse is inflicting harm , or restraining a “person” in any way shape or manner. So yeah holding a woman down, in my eyes is a form of abuse. I have lived through that and let me tell you that has affected me so much that I am now claustrophobic human interaction issues such as crowds, cuddling or being held..etc…

    You have feet right? Use them WALK AWAY-this is not directed towards you lol..

    Comment by colomitalia | February 22, 2009 | Reply

  3. i can see this is going to be a one sided conversation with you, but women are not the only “victims” in domestic abuse!!

    Comment by anonymous | February 22, 2009 | Reply

  4. We will agree to disagree then. But yes women are not the only ones…

    Comment by colomitalia | February 22, 2009 | Reply


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