Superwoman?

A little while ago a person once told me that I was a “tough girl” a super woman of some sorts who could annihilate any obstacle that stood in her way . I began to think wow what a great quality! But after last months events I began realize that I am nothing more than a mere mortal. A mortal who has a heart, feelings, and soul !

Maybe this blog is a little “out there”  but after sharing a couple of beers with a friend and discussing the politics of comics, I could not help but compare life to a comic.   A  romantic comedy with an array of plots and characters that thrust me into  the most messed up predicaments.  I began to fill my thoughts with self-doubt, often wondering if  I created my own drama. Was is it me, is it them? Did I do something wrong, did i act or say the wrong thing?  Is this what the dating world is like? Should a relationship serious or non, be dramatic, confusing, hurtful, and passionate at the same time?

I don’t know if its because I am growing older, a result of the economy, or a shift in the universe but it seems as if relationships are not what they used to be. Casual sex/ friends with benefits has replaced the very fundamentals of what a relationship used to be and has sucked the life out of them. We have  become more accustomed to this fast way of life and preoccupy our time with disposable men and women.

So, here is my comic like analogy. You put your relationship wall up and vow to never fall in love again. You promise to take life for whats its worth, including relationships and focus on the philosophy of ” doing you”.  You put your big girl panties on and walk into corporate and social America with your game face on ready to take on any challenge that stands in your way. You do good for the most part until,  find him ,your Kryptonite ,whom I will now dub Mr. Wolverine.The anti-hero with the sharp retractable claws who was able to break down your wall effortlessly. The man who bounces back from any type of relationship trauma and suppresses his human like characteristics including emotions. (wow I am too much into comics !) The bad boy!

Who is he and where did he come from? Worse yet how did he break down your invisible force field and aim straight for you heart?  Although I am over it, and my Wolverine has left the building , I could not help but think to myself how do strong independent women allow this gruff loner take a hold of our hearts?  When was it cool to lock Prince Charming up and put this mutant in his place? Lastly how do we take our lives back?

Relationships and food!

I am now taking requests for blog material. So one of my friends asked me to write a blog  a while back about relationships and food . Initially I saw this as a challenge and could not relate to the subject  or even form a connection between the two, not until now that is.  Not until I was part of a love triangle that I could not comprehend.

Relationships are like food! Hmm His analogy was interesting why do men, or even women that have a 3 course meal  in front of them every night of the week opt for that occasional slice or two or three of pizza ?

When we are we getting all the the nutrients and vitamins in a meal we  still  stray from the diet?  Do we really want to see whats on the other side? To curve our junk food craving? I really cant answer this this, and as I was eating my medley of fruit, deciding on weather to eat the grape or the pineapple, I thought for one second that  perhaps we  as humans are not are wired to stick with one type of cuisine. We were given  taste buds for a reason  an sometimes we simply get bored with the same type of meal 7 days a week. Its OK to do the healthy thing and get in all your fruits and veggies but reality is, sometimes we want to add a little hot salsa to the mix and spice things up. Food like relationships should be full of flavor and be savored from the first bite to the last rather than predictable and bland.

So is the real question , is it wrong to want to take an occasional bite into that slice of pizza, sushi, or Prime Rib or opt to stay on this strict diet of monogamy?

So here it is my friend a blog in your honor, I wish I could answer this but I cant