Bruised but not broken

Thanks M- for the inspiration!

You are in a relationship that may not be so good for you. But for argument’s sake, you can not get out of it. Whether it be a financial, domestic, children, or an emotional situation. For whatever reason, you have boarded that relationship plane and are thousands of feet in the air. After half an hour of a turbulence free flight, the  air pressure in the cabin begins to drop. Your smooth flying is now interrupted with a series of air pockets and you are now on a rollercoaster of emotions. Soon after, the pilot announces that your plane has run out of fuel and you trip to utopia is now being rescheduled with a crash landing. You begin to panic and think of an exit strategy.

 The emergency door does not open and you are forced to sit in your seat with the seatbelt fastened. You look to your left  your past is staring you right in your face. On the  right you impending future. What do you do?  Just before your airplane is about to crash into the abyss of the unknown, superman flys to your seat extending his hand out to you.

You take one final look at your situation baggage and issues in hand desperately trying to make sense of the situation. You are now forced to make a decision.  Do I take Clark Kent’s hand and fly off into the sunset, or do I assume the crash position and hope; no pray, that everything will be ok.  This is a dilemma that many of us are faced with. This is was so unexpected, you need more time. So , you decide to pick up that Harlequin novel that you purchased and begin to read.

You begin to  get lost in the novel and you lose the sense of the situation at hand. You are now faced with fact vs fiction. Do you choose to live the fantasy of a new life leaving your past behind or do you deal with the cards you were dealt with.

I don’t really have an answer and in my case I did both. Getting married and pregnant at the age of 16 forced me to deal with a lot of situations/emotions in my life. There came many points in my life when I was forced to choose between my fantasy and nonfiction. There were times when I chose to play  the lead role in that Harlequin novel that was my so-called life.  I am not going to lie, it felt good, at the time. It felt good to escape my sorrows or that imminent plane crash and if only for a moment , live life. One of many moments. But like the saying goes, all good things come to an end. Just as I was about to turn the final page in that novel, the capt requests you to prepare for impact.

Shit! You soon realize the obvious! That novel that you were so engulfed in has reached the end. And that plane  that you are on is going down.

Although I don’t really have an answer. All I can say is that if you are afraid of flying do not board that plane. Translation if you are not happy with your life, maybe its time to start a new one. Alone! Don’t wait for superman to come save you. Don’t try to escape from your current situation with a fantasy, don’t put yourself in a predicament that will impede your judgement. Take the driver’s seat and be proactive.Take some flying lessons, bring a parachute ,whatever it is..Take  the time to figure out what you want.

Be your own superhero and write your own Novel. Chances are you will have that happy ending..