I am just not that into you.

Ladies, Ladies and men PLEASE listen. When a man or woman is interested in you , you will know. There is no need to hound, stalk, text, obsess, wonder , worry, question , over-analyze or try to convince them of this. Either they are interested or not, it’s as simple as that!

Now this applies to both a casual meeting and something a little bit more serious.  For now, I am focusing on the initial, not so serious meetings..

Casually speaking..You meet someone at the bar, online, or whatever your seduction spot is. You entertained an hour-long conversation at the bar, you exchanged several emails back and forth or the sexual chemistry that night was seeping out of your pores. You were really impressed with him or her and send a courtesy text the next day; they respond.Days turn into weeks and now you are Facebook friends.  You two have been having pleasant conversations and  you want to see where this goes.

You then pop the question of wanting to see them, I mean why wouldn’t they want to. But instead of getting a response, you get silence. You give it a couple of days to respond still nothing, so you call. No response, you then text, he or she responds. You ask again. Silence..You rationalize the situation and blame it on them ”being busy”. Don’t! Just because this first point of contact may have been a pleasant one this does not mean that the person is interested.  For whatever reason, they just aren’t interested in getting to know you. Just because the planets were aligned on that specific day and lust was in the air, does not mean its going to linger for days on end..I know what you are saying, why not say something, we are all adults. Well, there are several reasons . The main one being people are afraid of hurting other people. Sure they enjoy your conversations, texts and chats, but that’s as far as it goes and you need to be able to pick up on these signs.

What are the signs? To see if a woman or man  is interested or not.

 1. First clue being do they return your calls or texts in a timely manner? I mean sure you got their number and vice versa, but just because you now have their contact information does give you the right to call them and text them all the time. And if they are not responding to your texts till hours or days later, they are not interested..

2.  If they are not answering or returning your calls, chances are they are not going to Facebook, yahoo or chat with you. So please don’t try another form of communication..They are not interested.

3.  They are never available and always busy. Giving you verbal clues such as,  I’m busy. I’ve got to a lot of things on my plate, they don’t get back to you right away. Believe me when I am interested in someone I will make the time. I don’t care if I had a horrible not so good very bad day. On the contrary I will want to talk to him after these days.

I know some of you may be asking why are you even writing this or why not tell them you are not interested. Well, in my own ways I have! But for some reason men seem to try to convince me otherwise. They want to convince me why I should give them a chance.

I can not even tell you how many “Do not Answers” I have in my phone book, or how many people I have had to block from my chat. I am a social person, I like to talk to people. I have no problem making friends and giving out my number after having a great conversation. But just because I gave you my contact information that does not mean I am interested..Interest is something merely exists, not something that will exist over time.