Deceit is disgusting!
I just don’t get it, why do people feel the need to “lie”. Weather the lie may be black or white, blue or purple..it is a selfish, childish act.
Where are the days of honesty, when a man could tell a woman what he really wants from her. Wether it be sex, a relationship or otherwise; where is the love? I know that honesty is a difficult dish to serve but how difficult is it to say …”Yes, I do want to be with you” or “No please move on.” It’s as simple as that. Now I understand that not all people can handle something as real as the truth. To those people I say, “shame on you.” Wouldn’t you rather live in reality vs a fantasy? Wouldn’t you rather know where the relationship is going vs where you want it to go? And to those who are pulling the strings behind the scene, I am disgusted. Disgusted at the fact that you tug on someones emotions for your selfish gain. Disgusted at that fact that you are not human enough to let a person go especially when you don’t even know where you are going. Why the circles, why the deceit , why bull? Insignificant person why do you feel the need to lie to a good person when they have been nothing but good to you. Why do you feel the need to mess with their minds so that you could keep things Kosher in your life?
Call me crazy, but I don’t like Kosher! Give me a nice big plate of honesty and I am a happy camper. Believe me guys and girls, the truth will surface. Esp with women. It’s like we have these super powers or some like to call it, “women’s intuition” that kicks in as soon as trouble is in the air. Although we try to ignore it ; that intuition leads us to probe, investigate and eventually find the truth. A cold , hard,truth that was sugar-coated in shit by you. No thanks!
So the moral of this story? Don’t lie. If a man or woman asks you a question that is related to your relationship; be upfront be honest, be you!
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What’s interesting to me is that despite ow many times it’s happened to you and all your other friends, you’re still expecting that you won’t get hurt by the next guy who isn’t truthful up front with what he wants. At the risk of sounding like the biggest dog ever, let me break it down to you. Why does a guy want to go out with you? Why does a guy want to go out with your sisters, mom, female friends etc? Do you honestly not know what they want? They want to get you into bed, the back side of his Corolla, by the stairwell at the Blue Line Division/Milwaukee/Ashland train station, wherever, for sex.
True, some of us are smoother than others and we play the whole, I’m a good listener game. Heck, some of us may even agree with you that it’s ok to wait to have sex until “you’re ready” but all that patience is there because at the end, he expects that you are worth the wait. Sure, some of us guys can be purely friends with women but that’s because we know that outr female friend can introduce us to other women and we might get, you guessed it, sex!
But, you may say, how about those good boys that love the lord and their mommies, surely they want something more from me. And you’d be wrong. In fact, even if you had a great gay male friend, he’s around you because he also believes that he may meet some great guys if he hangs out with someone with a smile as beautiful as yours.
Don’t get me wrong, all of us have other reasons to be with you but in the beginning, since we don’t know anything about you, your objectification as a sex symbol is what drew me to you. If we don’t ditch you, we will learn some of the great things that make you who you are and eventually we’ll learn to love you for that too but don’t confuse it all, you may make a mean peanut butter and jelly sandwich but at the end of the day, if the sex isn’t there or isn’t what we expected it to be, we’ll go buy our own jars of Jiffy and Welch’s.
Why aren’t guys upfront about this? First off, we don’t beleive that you really don’t know what we wanted and so we don’t find the need to tell you. ANd seriously we know that telling you, hey sweety, I wanna get in your pants, NOW! isn’t gonna work the majority of the times, we simply play along with your game of denial.
Dear Frank.
Thanks for the post. I agree especially the part where you say “eventually” we will fall in love with you. I also agree with the fact that the prize (sex) is always on a man’s mind. My whole problem is “playing” along with the whole game of denial.
Some women, believe it or not. Want honest. We want you to say, look this is just sexual and nothing will come out of it. On top of the verbal warning we need to have your actions speak louder than words. NO pillow talk, no cuddling, no asking us to spend the night 3xs a week to only tell us that this is casual.
I want the words to match the actions and unfortunately not a lot of men do that.
While I believe that both people in a relationship should be honest, the truth is sometimes, we men don’t know what the truth is. I’ve been in situations where I like a girl alot and am debating what my next step with her should be. Then, she’ll start nagging about how I need to be more open with her about what I’m looking for in our relationship and her behavior pushes me in a totally different direction than where I may have originally been headed.
Unlike women, men are not conditioned to think that far ahead in regards to relationships. While you ladies are picking out which shoes you’ll wear to your wedding at the age of 11, we hardly think about that stuff until our partner is either pregnant or threatening to leave if we don’t make a commitment quick. In my mind, those types of decisions should never be made under that type of stress.
My advice to couples is to go into a relationship with an open mind and to get to know each other instead of to fulfill a Disney-like fantasy that in the end will not likely result in living happily ever after!