Planting.
After yet another discussion about relationships with a member of the opposite sex I could not wait to get back to the writing board. This weeks topic “Planting” in a relationship.
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Planting; also known as the time in the relationship when a “person” leaves stuff at a guys or girls house to ward off the rest? Whether it be: a toothbrush, a bra, a scrungee or a pair of shoes,he or she is marking their territory. What ever the object of desire may be, it was left behind to let the next customer served know.. “Hey I was here first!”
Wow ,cough cough, I have to admit I have done it. Not just to say that I did it but i admit it . But to be fair, I have had it done to me. As I was lying there 6 months into the “lets just chill relationship”, I looked over at his night-stand and realized ..”Hey that’s not my lip-gloss, or hey that is not my Victoria’ Secret cream” Can you say OUCH? Sure, it may have stung for a moment but in all fairness, it let me know where I stood in that persons life.
So when does planting become an issue and why do we partake in such a childish act. It also made me think , do men play in that same garden of evil?
I can only look to myself as and example and although I admit to getting my hands all muddy. I must say that my reasons were out of pure laziness. Honestly I don’t really care to mark my territory, I was just too tired of lugging my shit back and forth. I mean really I was at his house almost 2-3xs a week for about 6 months and was playing the wifey role-who wouldn’t. But after I got called out on it from Douche bag MC-T (his name shall remain anonymous) I began to realize what I was doing and immediately stopped. I don’t want to be that woman. The one who feels the need to leave a thing or two in his filthy ass bed-room to feel secure in the relationship. Even if I was doing that, do you honestly think that the next girl who is about to get a piece of that really gives a shit? PROBABLY NOT!
So planting, yay or nay?! Why do we feel the need to do it..
Honestly if you feel the need to plant something, you might want to ask yourself, will that garden ever grow..
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Natalia
Am I single? Yes
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I am a freelance journalist who is very passionate about her craft. My writing reflects my many interests and personalities. I can easily shift from writing poetry, to reviews,to subjective and objective articles. I live my life to the fullest with no regrets and I say what I mean and mean what I say. I cut through all the red- tape and like to get to the heart of things. The truth is what I seek, and yearn. I don’t like to commit to one genre because there are so many talented individuals that each posses a unique quality. Side note: I am not a girlie girl and you will often times see me in my pony tail, jeans, and CHUCK TAYLORS!
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I guess the reason behind the planting is what really determines if it’s a yay or nay in my book. If it is out of convenience, I don’t see anything wrong with that. One is spending so much time at that individuals place, a brush over the bedside table is not too much to ask. But to purposely place it for the next person to notice is a bit obsessive. Why plant something with spite for the next girl that comes along? Thats already premeditating that there is someone else in the picture. So yay to convenience, nay to obsessive territorial claims.
Planting? I’ve never heard of it & am perplexed that people do that. Sorry but that’s weird and a little calculating. Not trying to be judgemental, even though that’s exactly what it looks like. I appreciate my wife for her honesty and absolutely no game playing & I’m the same. We’ve been together for close to 20 years now and I’ve never played or taking part in games like that.
Apparantly it does exist. I am fairly new to the dating game and really did not think anything of it unti,l subject A, brought it to my attention. I too was married and sometimes think that its easier to be in a “real” relationship as opposed to all the fake ones that are out there!