Damaged goods?

When I initially started writing this post, I had no idea where I was going with it.

All I knew was that another Holiday had passed and the Holiday blues were setting in.  I not only began to shed a tear each time those stupid Jared commercials ran but I was feeling the pressure to commit from my friends, family etc.  As  I sat there psychoanalyzing myself getting nowhere fast! I began to ask myself, am I damaged goods? Does the fact that I am a 31-year-old single mom, make me undesirable or wrong?

While many of my friends around me are getting engaged , married, and divorced, I was embracing my singleness. Although I was happy, I began to feel the pressures that society has put on many of us that are over 30 and single. I began to feel  like I was the alien who had lost her way and was following this backward  path in life.   The truth is I know where I am going and why I am doing it.

Whether it be a fear of commitment, not finding the right man, focusing on my career, children etc.. I am happy right where I am at! For those of you that disagree I am going to quote my friend and  fellow sex columnist Jon Ibraham ,” The real issue is the sad truth that the general population believes that if you’re in your late 20s or early 30s and  still single there must be something wrong with you -”NO THERE ISNT!

! Just because I am single does not make me less of a person, less desirable BROKEN or otherwise. Don’t get me wrong, it would be nice to have a life partner but I don’t want just any partner!I guess I am still trying to find my place in this world, still trying to find my dream job, my dream man, be set financially, and emotionally. But far from damaged.

Single by choice, not by circumstance!

 

Read more: http://www.chicagonow.com/blogs/sex-on-fire/2010/11/being-single-doesnt-mean-youre-broken.html#ixzz16ilFLIfa

 

 

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